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Corey J. Gilbert, Ph.D.

Book Resources

Disclaimer:  This is not an endorsement of any theory or approach to counseling, or an assurance that all material is biblical.  These are recommended resources only!

Books in blue are highly recommended by Dr. Gilbert.

Homosexuality

Jones & Yarhouse   

Homosexuality: The Use of Scientific Research in the Church's Moral Debate

Yarhouse 

Sexual Identity Synthesis: Attributions, Meaning-Making, and the Search for Congruence

Dallas

When Homosexuality Hits Home: What to do When a Loved One Says They're Gay

Via

Homosexuality and the Bible: Two Views

Satinover

Homosexuality and the Politics of Truth

Sex

Arterburn          

Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time  

Arterburn          

Every Women’s Desire

Arterburn          

Every Young Man's Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation

Arterburn          

Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World

Carnes             

Contrary to Love

 

Earle & Laasar  

Pornography Trap: Setting Pastors and Laypersons Free from Sexual Addiction

Ethridge           

Every Woman's Battle: Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment

Gross              

Dirty Little Secret: Uncovering the Truth behind Porn

Hart, Weber, & Taylor               

Secrets of Eve                                                 

Hart                 

The Sexual Man

 

Harris               

Not Even a Hint

LaHaye            

The Act of Marriage: The Beauty of Sexual Marriage

Leman             

Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage                                    

Leman             

Sex Begins in the Kitchen, Repack: Creating Intimacy to Make Your Marriage Sizzle                     

McCluskey       

When Two Become One: Enhancing Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

 

Penner             

The Gift of Sex

Penner             

Married Guys Guide to Great Sex                      

Penner             

Restoring the Pleasure                                      

Rosenau          

A Celebration Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual Intimacy

Rosenau          

Celebration of Sex After 50   

 

Wheat              

Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriages

       
Marriage          
Marriage Preparation

Penner             

Getting Your Sex Life of to a Great Start   

 

Rosenau          

A Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds

 

     
Parenting          
Women's Issues          
Dating   coming soon!    
Christian Living          
Health          
Addictions          
Nouthetic - Biblical Counseling          
           

Book Resources

Disclaimer:  This is not an endorsement of any theory or approach to counseling, or an assurance that all material is biblical.  These are recommended resources only!

Books in blue are highly recommended by Dr. Gilbert.

Homosexuality
 

Jones & Yarhouse        

Homosexuality: The Use of Scientific Research in the Church's Moral Debate

 

Excellent resource that provides a balanced view of homosexuality and the church’s moral dilemma. 

I highly recommend Dr. Yarhouse’s writings and research.

Yarhouse                     

Sexual Identity Synthesis: Attributions, Meaning-Making, and the Search for Congruence

 

 Dallas                          

When Homosexuality Hits Home: What to do When a Loved One Says They're Gay

 

Via                              

Homosexuality and the Bible: Two Views

 

 Satinover                     

Homosexuality and the Politics of Truth

   

 

 

 

 

 


Sex

 

Arterburn          

Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time  

 

 

Arterburn          

Every Women’s Desire

 

 

Arterburn          

Every Young Man's Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation

 

 

Arterburn          

Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World

 

 

Carnes             

Contrary to Love

 

 

Earle & Laasar  

Pornography Trap: Setting Pastors and Laypersons Free from Sexual Addiction

 

 

Ethridge           

Every Woman's Battle: Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment

 

 

Gross              

Dirty Little Secret: Uncovering the Truth behind Porn

 

 

Hart, Weber, & Taylor               

Secrets of Eve                                                 

 

One of the best resources regarding female sexuality; research based.  A must read! 

Hart                 

The Sexual Man

 

 

Harris               

Not Even a Hint

 

 

LaHaye            

The Act of Marriage: The Beauty of Sexual Marriage                                      

 

 

Leman             

Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage                                    

 

A funny candid conversation about the sexual relationship in marriage.  A must read for couples. 

Leman             

Sex Begins in the Kitchen, Repack: Creating Intimacy to Make Your Marriage Sizzle                     

 

Great marriage book in general.  You will not want to miss this refreshing look at sex in marriage. 

McCluskey       

When Two Become One: Enhancing Sexual Intimacy in Marriage                                    

 

 

Penner             

The Gift of Sex                                                            

 

 

Penner             

Getting Your Sex Life of to a Great Start           

 

A must read for nearly married couples.  Wait until a few days before the wedding to dive into this one. 

Penner             

Married Guys Guide to Great Sex                      

 

 

Penner             

Restoring the Pleasure                                      

 

 

Rosenau          

A Celebration Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual Intimacy                                                

 

 

Rosenau          

A Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds                 

 

A must read for nearly married couples.  Wait until a few days before the wedding to dive into this one. 

Rosenau          

Celebration of Sex After 50       

 

 

Wheat              

Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriages

 

 

 

 

  


Marriage

 

Mack                           

Strengthening Your Marriage

 

 

Janssen                       

The Marriage Masterpiece

 

 

Parrott & Parrott           

I Love You More: How Everyday Problems Can Strengthen Your Marriage

 

A resource that is guaranteed to strengthen your marriage and help you through rough spots that are inevitable.  Expect them! 

Parrott & Parrott           

Love Talk Starters: 275 Questions to Get Your Conversations Going

 

 

Parrott & Parrott           

Love Talk: Speak Each Other's Language Like You Never Have Before

 

 

Parrott & Parrott           

The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring: Connecting Couples to Build Better Marriages

 

 

Parrott & Parrott           

51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors: Connecting Couples to Build Better Marriages

 

 

Rainey                         

Rekindling the Romance

 

 

Rosberg                      

The Five Love Needs of Men & Women

 

 

Shedd                         

Letters to Phillip

 

 

Smalley                       

DNA of Relationships

 

 

Smalley & Paul             

DNA of Relationships for Couples

 

 

Stanley                        

The Heart of Commitment

 

 

Warren                         

Learning to Live with the Love of Your Life . . . and Loving It

 

 

Wright                          

Marriage Counseling

 

 

 


Marriage Preparation

 

Parrott & Parrott           

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before (and After) You Marry

 

My favorite premarital counseling resource. 

Parrott & Parrott           

Getting Ready for the Wedding

 

 

 

 

  


Women’s Issues

 

Eldredge & Eldredge    

Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul

 

 

Parrott                         

You Matter More Than You Think: What a Woman Needs to Know about the Difference She Makes

 

 

 

 

  


Parenting

 

Arterburn          

Preparing Your Son for Every Man's Battle: Honest Conversations About Sexual Integrity

 

 

Boyd               

Different Children, Different Needs: Understanding the Unique Personality of Your Child

 

 

Dobson                       

Bringing Up Boys

 

 

Ethridge           

Preparing Your Daughter for Every Woman's Battle: Creative Conversations about Sexual and Emotional Integrity

 

 

Leman             

A Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids about Sex

 

 

Leman             

Making Children Mind without Losing Yours: How to Bring out the Best in Kids by Doing What Is Best for Them

 

A favorite parenting book of mine.

Leman             

Running the Rapids: Guiding Your Kids through the Turbulent Waters of Adolescence

 

 

Lewis               

Raising a Modern Day Night

 

Excellent and challenging book on raising boys.  Have a little boy?  You must read this. 

Ludy                

Teaching True Love to a Sex-at-13 Generation: The Ultimate Guide for Parents

 

 

Nicolosi                       

Parent’s Guide to Preventing Homosexuality

 

 

Rainey             

So You're About to Be a Teenager: Godly Advice for Preteens on Friends, Love, Sex, Faith, and Other Life Issues

 

 

Sells                

Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager

 

 

Smalley & Trent            

Leaving the Light On

 

 

Tripp                

Shepherding Your Child’s Heart

 

A refreshing look at parenting.  Biblical based guide to becoming an amazing influence on your child’s spiritual life.

 

 

  


Dating

 

DiMarco                       

Technical Virgin: How Far Is Too Far?

 

 

Harris                           

Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World

 

 

Lookadoo & DiMarco   

Dateable: Are You? Are They?

 

 

Nelson                         

The Book Of Romance: What Solomon Says About Love, Sex and Intimacy

 

 

Rosenau & Wilson        

Soul Virgin:  Redefining Single Sexuality

 

 

Warren                         

Finding the Love of Your Life

 

A book that truly influenced my dating life and personal outlook on MY future with another. 

Warren                         

How to Know if Someone Is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less

 

 

Warren                         

Date Or Soul Mate?: How to Know if Someone is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less

 

Excellent guide to healthy and mature dating.  A must read for every single adult.

Young & Adams           

The Ten Commandments of Dating

 

 

Purnell                         

Becoming a Friend and Lover

 

A favorite.  Read it. 

 

 

  


Christian Living
 

Clinton                         

Attachments: Why You Love, Feel and Act the Way You Do

 

 

Eldredge                      

Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul

 

 

Eldredge                      

The Sacred Romance: Drawing Closer to the Heart of God

 

 

Nelson                         

12 Essentials of Godly Success: Biblical Steps to a Life Well Lived

 

 

Murrow                        

Why Men Hate Going to Church

 

Interesting look at men in church.  This is a challenging book for the church of today. 

Warren                         

Finding Contentment: When Momentary Happiness Just Isn't Enough

 

 

 

 

  


Health

 

Rubin               

The Maker’s Diet

 

You might not agree with everything from Jordan Rubin, but he is right on in terms of the source of disease a the influence of our diet on our health. 

Rubin               

The Great Physician's RX for Health and Wellness

 

Jordan Rubin’s newest.  Give it a try. 

Rubin               

Patient, Heal Thyself: A Remarkable Health Program Combining Ancient Wisdom with Groundbreaking Clinical Research

 

This book changed and literally saved my life.  I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease and have overcome many other diagnoses with the help of Garden of Life and Jordan Rubin. 

Smalley                       

Food and Love

 

 

 

 

  


Textbook

 

Clinton & Sibcy            

Attachments

 

Clinton             

Competent Christian Counseling: Foundations and Practice of Compassionate Soul Care, Vol. 1

My favorite resource for Christian Counseling. 

Collins             

Biblical Basis of Christian Counseling for People Helpers: Relating the Basic Teachings of Scripture to People's Problems

 

Collins             

Christian Counseling: A Comprehensive Guide

 

 

McMinn            

Psychology, Theology, and Spirituality in Christian Counseling

 

 

Kollar               

Solution Focused Pastoral Counseling

 

 

Hasz                

Promoting Change Through Brief Therapy in Christian Counseling

 

 

 

 

 

 


Addictions
 

Dallas              

The Game Plan: The Men's 30-Day Strategy for Attaining Sexual Integrity

 

 

Laasar             

Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction

 

 

Gallagher         

At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry

 

 

Schaumburg    

False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction

 

 

 

 

  


Secular

 

Berman            

For Women Only                                  

 

 

Hyde               

Understanding Human Sexuality                        

 

 

(no author)       

The Kinsey Corruption                                      

 

 

Stone              

Difficult Conversations

 

 

Fischer            

Getting to YES!

 

 

Goodman        

Basic Skills for the New Mediator

 

 

Gottman          

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

 

Excellent resource with solid data backing all of his propositions.  John Gottman is a leader in the field. 

Gottman          

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail

 

Another great resources by Gottman.

Frankl              

Man’s Search for Meaning

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Biblical Counseling (Nouthetic)

 

Petty                           

Step by Step: Divine Guidance for Ordinary Christians

 

 

Powlison                      

Seeing with New Eyes: Counseling and the Human Condition through the Lens of Scripture

 

 

Welch                          

Blame it On the Brain?: Distinguishing Chemical Imbalances, Brain Disorders, and Disobedience

 

 

Welch                          

When People Are Big and God is Small

 

 


Marriage

 

 

Peace                          

The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective

 

 

Priolo                          

The Complete Husband: A Practical Guide to Biblical Husbanding

 

 

Thomas                       

The Sacred Marriage

 

 

Tripp                            

War of Words: Getting to the Heart of Your Communication Struggles

 

 

 
Parenting

 

 

Thomas                       

Sacred Parenting: How Raising Children Shapes Our Souls

 

 

Tripp                            

Shepherding a Child’s Heart

 

Must read for parents!!!

Tripp                            

Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens

 

 

Priolo                          

Heart of Anger: Practical Help for the Prevention and Cure of Anger in Children

 

 

Priolo                          

Teach Them Diligently: How to Use the Scriptures in Child Training

 

 

 
Counseling

 

 

Adams                         

A Theology of Christian Counseling

 

 

Adams                         

The Christian Counselor’s Manual

 

 

Crabb                          

Effective Biblical Counseling

 

 

MacArthur & Mack        

Introduction to Biblical Counseling

 

 

Mack                           

Homework Manual for Biblical Living: Personal and Interpersonal Problems, Vol. 1

 

 

Mack                           

Homework Manual for Biblical Living: Family and Marital Problems, Vol. 2

 

 

Tripp                            

Instrument’s in the Redeemer’s Hand

 

 

 
Addictions

 

 

Gallagher                     

A Biblical Guide to Counseling the Sexual Addict

 

 

Welch                          

Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave: Finding Hope in the Power of the Gospel

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dating

How Can I Be Sure: Questions to Ask Before You Get Married – Phillips (1978; 1999)

What You Need to Know Before You Fall in Love: Discover the Secrets to Finding a Love that Will Last a Lifetime – Nicholson (1995)

Single Focus: Understanding Single Adults – Barna (2003)

Becoming a Friend and Lover – Purnell (1986; 1990)

Finding the Love of Your Life – Warren (1992)

Boundaries in Dating: Making Dating Work – Cloud & Townsend (2000)

The 10 Commandments of Dating: Time-Tested Laws for Building Successful Relationships – Young & Adams (1999)

Before You Marry: The All-Time Favorite Bible Study for Future Brides and Grooms – Peterson (1974)

Before The Ring: Question Worth Asking – Coleman (1991)

Devotions for Dating Couples: Building a Foundation for Spiritual Intimacy – Young & Adams (2001)

The One: A Realistic Guide to Choosing Your Soul mate – Young & Adams (2001)

Marriable: Taking the Desperate Out of Dating – DiMarco & DiMarco (2005)

Too Close Too Soon: Experience-tested advice: How to Distinguish Attraction from Love-and Avoid the Disillusionment of Premature Intimacy – Talley & Reed (1982; 1990)

Are We Compatible: Strategies for Making Your Personality and Background Differences Work for You – Not Against You – Rollins (1995)

Getting Ready for the Wedding: All You Need to Know Before You Say I Do – Parrott & Parrott (1998)

When God Writes Your Love Story: The Ultimate Guide to Guy/Girl Relationships – Ludy & Ludy (1999)

When Dreams Come True: Discover a Love Worth Waiting For – Ludy & Ludy (2000)

Lady in Waiting: Developing Your Love Relationships – Jones & Kendall (1995)

Single and Content: Experiencing Singleness in a Paired-Off World – Anders, Clement, Conti & Trent (1999)

Finding Contentment: When Momentary Happiness Just Isn’t Enough – Warren (1997)

The Complete Book of Wedding Vows: The Importance of How You Say I Do – Wright (2001)

Finding the Perfect Mate – Wright (1995)

Starting Out Together: A Devotional for Dating or Engaged Couples – Wright (1996)

Adventures in Singlehood: A Road map for Singles – Shellenberger & Ross (1996)

 

 

Marriage

For Better or For Worse: Understanding Your Husband – Smalley (1979; 1988)

How to Bring Out the Best in Your Spouse – Wright & Oliver (1994; 1996)

Love for All Seasons: Eight Ways to Nurture Intimacy – Trent (1996)

The Language of Love: A Powerful Way to Maximize Insight, Intimacy, & Understanding – Smalley & Trent (1988)

Your Love and marriage: Dr. Harley Answers Your Most Personal Questions – Harley (1997)

Men & Women: Enjoying the Difference – Crabb (1991)

Making Love Last Forever – Smalley (1996)

Creative Romance: Hundreds of Ways to Say I Love You and Much More! – Fields (1991)

Letters to Phillip: On How to Treat a Woman – Shedd (1968)

Letters to Karen: On Keeping Love in Marriage – Shedd (1965)

Do-It-Yourself Relationship Mender: A Remarkable Remedy for Unresolved Conflict – Rosberg (1995)

Strategies for a Successful Marriage: A Study Guide for Men – Wagner (1994)

Catching the Rhythm of Love: Experience Your Way to a Spectacular Marriage – Warren (2000)

40 Unforgettable Dates with Your Mate: Creative Ways to Meet the Love Needs of Husbands and Wives – Rosberg & Rosberg (2002)

Winning Your Husband Back Before It’s Too Late – Whether He’s Left Physically or Emotionally – Smalley & Smalley (1999)

How to Live With Them Since You Can’t Live Without Them: Developing the Knowledge, Skills, and Decisions for Successful Relationships – Tirabassi & Tirabassi (1998)

He Said, She Said: Candid Conversations About the Making of a Great Marriage – Gillham & Gillham (

 

Sex

Pure Joy!: The Positive Side of Single Sexuality – Stedman (1993)

The Truth About Sex – Arthur (2002; 2005)

Getting Your Sex Life Off to A Great Start: A Guide for Engaged and Newlywed Couples – Penner & Penner (1994)

The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment – Penner & Penner (1981)

The Act of Marriage: The Beauty of Sexual Love – LaHaye (1976)

Men & Sex: Discovering Greater Love, Passion, & Intimacy with Your Wife – Penner & Penner (1997)

Sex begins in the Kitchen: Because Love is an All-Day Affair – Leman (1999)

Sexual Happiness in Marriage: A Christian View of Sex and Marriage – Miles (1967)

A Joyful Meeting: Sexuality in Marriage – Grace & Grace (1980; 1995)

Rasing Sexually Pure Kids: How